Have you ever missed your partner so much you swore it actually hurt. You’re not alone.
Feeling physically bad when you’re away from your partner isn’t all just in your head. Just the same as you can grow to need that morning cup of coffee, our bodies become dependent on the hormones of our loved ones such as estrogen or testosterone. Moreover, it triggers the neurotransmitters our bodies naturally produce when we are with them. such as serotonin and dopamine.
Imagine feeling something so great. Each hug like a hit from the drug of love. Now imagine going longer and longer for your next fix. Eventually withdrawals will set in.
Still with me? If you have been there congrats! You’re human. It doesn’t mean you’re weak.
The feel good hormones like oxytocin rise when we are around our partners. According to a 2010 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, This same increase hormone production is responsible for additions to drugs. Over extended periods of those high levels, your body becomes dependent on them. If you happen to be separated, the effects can be as drastic as drug related withdrawals.
Symptoms can feel like depression, or anxiety, as your body is no longer producing high levels of those chemicals. You may become reclusive and lose interest in things you love. Your appetite may take a hit. These are all normal reactions.
It doesn’t have to keep your down however, many things can produce those feel good chemicals in your brain. Laughter, sunshine, exercise and family can all increase levels of serotonin and dopamine according to a 2012 study in J Phys Act Health. Think about how energized and wonderful you feel after a good workout, or following a comedy show. If you’re feeling down about missing your loved one, try giving yourself a boost with some fun.